Sometimes you have to lose yourself in order to find yourself. One side does not exist without the other to make it whole but once it is whole both sides stop existing because as “one” it just “Is”.
You don’t have to listen to anyone or anything but pay attention. Paying attention opens your mind to new ways of learning/applying lessons you’ve already learned/known. If you pay attention more you realize that people, including yourself, are only talking to themselves.
Life is a huge joke. Don’t take it so serious all the time. Love, Learn, Laugh and you will appreciate things a bit more. Often times we get caught up in so many other things that we miss the wonder of the now.